In a rather unexpected turn of events, a Nigerian man has taken to social media to share his shocking conversation with a lady after he asked her out on a date. The man, identified as Nathan and posting under the handle @Trading9696, was left speechless by the lady’s unusual request before their planned outing.

Nathan, who had met the woman just three days prior at a supermarket, was looking forward to his first date with her. However, he was completely blindsided by a message she sent him, which left him questioning the entire plan. Sharing screenshots of their conversation, Nathan revealed his disbelief at her demands.

According to the chat exchange, Nathan had simply asked the lady to let him know her preference for the date location. In response, she not only wanted to have a say in the venue but also requested a brand-new outfit worth 40,000 naira for the occasion.

The Conversation That Sparked Reactions

Their conversation started off smoothly, with Nathan suggesting that she should let him know where she would like to go. However, things took an unexpected turn when she added another request.

“I was saying you should make your reservations, and if I don’t like that place, then we leave,” she texted.

She then casually added, “And also would love to get an outfit.”

Nathan, initially caught off guard, tried to clarify her request, asking, “Hold on miss, you mean an outfit for the date?”

Without hesitation, she responded, “That would cost me 40k.”

Dumbfounded, Nathan repeated his question, attempting to understand the logic behind her demand. “Miss, why do you need a new outfit specifically for the date?” he asked.

Her response left him even more puzzled: “Embarking on a new journey.”

Social Media Reactions

Nathan’s post quickly gained traction on social media, drawing reactions from thousands of users who weighed in on the unexpected demand. Many were in disbelief, while others shared similar experiences.

“This is wild! She really just expects you to buy her an outfit for a first date?” one user commented.

Another wrote, “Imagine meeting someone, planning a simple date, and then they hit you with a 40k outfit request. Nigeria is truly something else.”

Some users criticized the lady’s sense of entitlement, arguing that it was unreasonable for her to expect a brand-new outfit from someone she had just met. Others, however, defended her, saying that she was simply setting her standards.

One commenter joked, “Bro, at least she asked for 40k. Some people would have asked for a full wardrobe upgrade and a wig.”

The Culture of High Expectations in Dating

This exchange has reignited conversations around the rising expectations in modern dating culture, especially in Nigeria. With the current economic situation, some men argue that dating has become more financially demanding, with certain women expecting extravagant treatment right from the first meeting.

On the other hand, some women insist that if a man is truly interested, he should be willing to invest in them, even if it means providing money for outfits, transportation, and other expenses.

Relationship experts, however, warn against such high expectations early in dating. “A date should be about getting to know each other, not about financial transactions,” says relationship coach Chidi Nwosu. “When money becomes the focal point before a relationship even begins, it sets a concerning precedent.”

Is This the New Normal?

Stories like Nathan’s are becoming increasingly common, with many men sharing similar experiences of women making unexpected financial demands before a first date even takes place. While some see this as an alarming trend, others believe it is simply a matter of personal preferences and that men who are uncomfortable with such requests should walk away.

For Nathan, the situation left him so shocked that he admitted he had not responded to the lady since the conversation happened. He ended his post with a remark that seemed to sum up his thoughts on the state of dating in Nigeria: “We are cooked in this country.”

As the debate continues, one thing remains clear—dating expectations are evolving, and not everyone is on the same page. Whether it is fair for someone to request a brand-new outfit for a first date or if it signals a deeper issue in modern dating remains a topic of hot discussion. Meanwhile, Nathan and others in similar situations must decide whether to meet these demands or move on to someone whose expectations align with theirs.