A pastor’s wife, who also works as a lawyer, recently opened up about a deeply personal experience that nearly altered her life’s trajectory—she almost tied the knot with a man who had what she described as a “micro manhood.”

In a candid post shared via GistReel, she emphasized the importance of addressing sexual compatibility before marriage, drawing from her own journey and professional observations.

Raised in the conservative environment of the Deeper Life Bible Church, she explained that discussions about intimacy were virtually nonexistent during her upbringing.

Women’s seminars at the church, which she often attended by sneaking out, avoided the topic entirely, leaving her unprepared for the realities of marital intimacy.

This gap in education, she believes, is a disservice to many women, prompting her to become an advocate for what she calls “sexual sincerity” during courtship.

In her legal career, the pastor’s wife has witnessed countless couples, once deeply in love, file for divorce due to unresolved sexual issues.

She argues that these problems, often swept under the rug in religious circles, are among the leading causes of marital breakdowns.

To help others avoid similar pitfalls, she proposed a set of bold questions for couples to ask during courtship without compromising their values.

These include inquiries about past sexual experiences, frequency preferences, and even specific physical attributes—like the size of a fiancé’s “gbola,” a Nigerian slang term for penis.

Her goal is to encourage transparency to ensure long-term compatibility.

Her concerns align with broader research on marital stability. Studies, such as a 2018 report from the Journal of Sexual Medicine, indicate that sexual dissatisfaction, including mismatched physical expectations, plays a significant role in 20-30% of divorces.

By sharing her story, this pastor’s wife hopes to spark meaningful conversations about intimacy, helping couples build stronger, more informed foundations for marriage.